Girl Talk: Speaking up Sexually
Anonymous Interview & Survey Quotes
The Orgasm Gap
“I will be waiting, waiting, and waiting, then suddenly he’s done… and it’s over. It’s bullshit!”
“Women are taught to think about our bodies for other people and not for ourselves…. Women need to take control over there bodies by knowing their bodies…and by masturbating!” “Most men don't take the time to make sure their partner orgasms. They're just selfish.” "It's not fair that they get off so easily. It takes some work to make me orgasm!” “Just because he puts his penis in you, doesn’t mean it’s gonna be great.” “I believe it's unfair that women are judged more harshly and unable to talk about sex as openly as men can. I am frustrated with my own sex life because I have only orgasmed from a partner one time.” "It seems unfair that for most women it takes specific actions and more time to orgasm, so if the guy doesn't take the time to do those things you wont finish.” “I suppose it does not matter what is fair or not biologically because it's what we're stuck with, but I think society could make it easier on women by making sex less taboo for them and teaching them about their sexuality earlier.” “I have never experienced a full blown orgasm” "Sex is considered over when a man orgasms even if the woman hasn't." | Hookup Culture
“Women have a right to want to be sexy.”
“She is a self-monitoring object.” "When a woman speaks openly about sex she jars the listeners and makes them reconsider her from a different perspective.” “I have a thing for pain.” “Other girls are very judgmental.” “One-night-stands can be liberating.” “I swear we talk about sex more than the guys across the hall do. They might talk about conquests, but … there is something about girls and how they discuss not just the sex but how it made us feel.” “'Slut’ is a vague insult.” “I like larger people, I guess you could call it a ‘fat fetish’.” “I’ve realized that it is harder to believably call someone a slut if they are confident and up front about what they do. The Walk of Shame becomes the Strut of Shame.” "Women are still getting reprimanded for what we do; but people are at least starting to notice that that’s not okay.” “You can just like the feel of a paddle sometimes; the whole stingy prickly thing.” | Ladylike
“Sometimes I’m a lady. I like to be treated like a lady.”
“When I think of ladylike, I think of a princess; none of us are princesses.” “A lady wears dresses, you know, a lady holds up her reputation. She doesn’t just let it all hang out. A lady can go out without being trashy… She’s feminine; she keeps it classy.” “Are you a lady?" “I’m a human.” “I am a woman who occasionally dabbles in the art of being a lady.” “For a woman, there are expectations to be modest and pure, even if it is on a subconscious level." "When I look at genders, I don’t really see genders. To me, everyone is just human… So ladylike to me is just, like, this dated word.” “Someone is ladylike if they hold themselves very well; they are classy.” |